TheGrlsRestroom
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TheGrlsRestroom
Gays are a GRLS best-friend!!!!
Have you ever wondered about the profound and vibrant relationships between girls and their gay best friends? This heartfelt episode honors my first gay best friend, Corey, whose light was tragically extinguished too soon. We navigate through cherished memories, highlighting the importance of mental health support with vital resources like the 988 text line and the 1-800-273-8255 hotline, urging listeners to seek help in times of need. Corey's enduring impact on my life is a testament to the joy and artistic perspectives that friendships with gay individuals can bring.
Immerse yourself in the electrifying world of LGBTQ+ communities, especially during the exuberant celebrations of Pride events. Discover the unique charm of "gayborhoods"—inclusive spaces where everyone can feel accepted and free. We'll explore how gay friends bring balance, empowerment, and unmatched energy to our lives and social gatherings. Additionally, we emphasize the essential need for ongoing support and check-ins, particularly for black gay men, ensuring they feel valued and cherished.
Friendships with gay friends are not without their complexities. Through candid reflections, we discuss the challenges of being a genuine ally, the importance of loyalty, and the impact of societal dynamics on these relationships. This episode calls for greater empathy, intersectional feminism, and kindness in our interactions, celebrating the diverse identities within our friendships while advocating for more inclusive and compassionate communities. Join us as we pay tribute to Corey and all the beautiful friendships that enrich our lives.
Hello everybody, welcome to the girls restroom where we restore, rejuvenate, release and reflect. Okay, all the re-re-re-re-rees, thank you for tuning in another episode. So today's topic is gays are a girl's best friend, so we are OK. So if you know me personally, you know mean girls and well, ok. So first of all, let's talk about this real quick. This is a side.
Speaker 1:So Jawbreaker is my all fave all girls chick flick movie, like my my fave movie, and then that's where they got the concept of mean girls. So if you've never seen the movie jawbreaker, you're not really a mean girl's fan, period. So just to throw that saying okay, so hell, I don't even know what was the hope, what was the whole point of me even saying it, because, oh, I got excited, because I can't wait to watch child breaker tonight when I get off I'm not even gonna say get off the phone with y'all when I finish recording, okay, but anyway, mean Girls is my favorite, favorite, favorite movie, like one of my favorite. Second favorite needs a job breaker and it's just okay. So I had to take a part. I was like wait, what the what? What's the whole point of it, okay? So y'all remember emin girls when, um, he kept coming into the girls restroom and they kept cussing him out. So, no, you don't have to feel like that in here and like, bring y'all ass in here. Like we know y'all don't want this moochie cat or whatever. So come on in and have your nice little seat, okay, and release and um, reflect with us, baby, because yo, you are welcome here.
Speaker 1:Gays are a girl's best friend, mom, okay. So y'all know I always gotta start the episode off pretty serious and I do want to dedicate this episode to my first gay best friend, corey, who is no longer with us due to suicide. So I do want you to know if you are having suicidal thoughts, um, there is help out there, there is someone who loves you and this goes for all the girls, the girls in the gays, whoever. If you have any serious this, this is a serious mental health thing and you should really reach out to people when you're feeling alone or feel like you don't want to be in this realm anymore. And if you don't feel comfortable or you feel like you may be judged because you are feeling these thoughts, please don't, but do get help. And the suicide hotline number for text messages 988, and you can chat with them any time of the day and someone will be there for you and help you get through this. And also, if you know someone who is going through any of this, don't be afraid to text 9888 and the phone number is 1-800-273-8255 and they are available for services 24 7. So I do want to um kind of, you know, be vulnerable there because, and dedicate this episode to him, because he literally changed my perspective on friends and having gays around and I was one of the first people he came out to and I kind of knew it. I knew it, I knew it. But, corey, I know you are on a different frequency with me, I know that times was tough for you, but I do also want you to know that in this realm you are not forgotten about, you are loved, you are cherished, you are adored and shout out to you and this episode goes to you I love you. But anyway, let's talk about Cory for a little bit.
Speaker 1:Cory was one of my. Well, he was my first gay bff or whatever, and he was always a little sassy, handsome as hell, you hear me. He was yellow, yellow bone, light-skinned for those who don't understand that term and he had a beautiful smile. He had nice soft hair and his daddy had, um, he adored his dad. His dad had passed away but he resembled him so, so, so much. He literally was like his twin in a way. It's so, um weird how much he looked like him. He didn't look like miss carla at all. Shout out to miss carla and um, yeah, it was my first gay bff and it was a trip. He wasn't.
Speaker 1:I remember cory being so sweet and a little judgmental, but not judge, judgy, judgy, like a bad judge. You'd be like like random people, be his friends, like if he cared about you or adored you or like you felt that and you also felt when he fuck with something that you was doing. That's what I mean by judging like, oh no, not this head around you because uh-uh no. But I seriously remember him just being so, um, admiring to his friends and his close friends. That was around him. So it's just like I'm sorry, I had like a little reminisce. I got a little chills just thinking about like how much he admired the girls that he loved that was around him and his friends in general. Like if he had it, you had it. Like Corey was a really, really great friend in that aspect.
Speaker 1:So rest in power, king, I love you and thank you and I am so grateful that you were a part of my life this lifetime and it was beautiful getting to know you around gay people, gay guys, and have always been very open with supporting my gays. And I really also want to just dedicate this to y'all and start off with just showing gratitude and I have so much gratitude for gays because a lot of gays have very artistic minds and their minds are just impeccable, like it's so, and not to make, not to make y'all feel, not not to highlight y'all in a way, to make it seem like you're just so much different, but you are and embrace that. You know I'm here to embrace that alien superstar, that whole different lifestyle and world that you live in. It's just nothing but like fab and just artistry and love. Like I love that and that's what I resonate with when I think about my gays. Like my gay friends um, always seem bigger and better. It's literally, and I just feel like that's every scene. That's that's why it's so important to have someone who is comfortable, tapped in with their masculine and feminine and just having that balance because look like would we be without a lot of, a lot of these gays in our lives, like most of the designers, are gay, most of like just artistically, like genius, like, like what would I do without my gay?
Speaker 1:However, I will say, with that being said, thank you too for being normal and just highlighting that, because that's not what you all are just for, that's not what you all are just for. Y'all are not all just for hair and makeup and blah blah and fashion and designer world. But at the same time, I and I know that's a sensitive topic to be talking about when it comes to gays, because a lot of women take advantage of you and use you just for that and make you feel like you are only good for that. But when it comes to standing up for you or fighting for you and really, truly embracing what y'all bring to the table and, you know, celebrating it and showing gratitude, it's just kind of like you're, you're used, you're just a little pawn, you're just here for the, you know, and y'all don't deserve that. Like y'all are truly our best friends, like for real, and I hate sometimes when it gets catty, especially when it get, I mean, but that's normal, you know. Whatever. However, like this is the positive space that we kind of just want to focus on what the positives are and I feel like every bitch need them a good gay best friend and every gay best friend need them a girl, need them a girl, especially when it comes down to like the feminine.
Speaker 1:I've always felt so much more comfortable hanging around the gay community because they that's who really opened my eyes to be secure about myself as, growing up as a chocolate fat girl you it wasn't much confidence out there for for me, growing up I had so many struggles because for one, like I always knew, being a bigger girl like that didn't. I mean it comes with its insecurities, but that's something I knew I could change. I did not know I could change the beat. I mean, not, I didn't know, but I know I can't change the color of my skin, and so it was always the stereotypical narrative running behind like beat chocolate girls, it was we're bullies and we're not, you know, attractive. So that's why I always gone above and beyond.
Speaker 1:Once I got around, the gays got my confidence to go above and beyond and that's really who helped me realize like girl, you are beautiful, like flunt this. This is how you flunt it, this is how you do like pick me up and in a crazy way, yeah, like some, um, we're not really going to get into identities here, but I am going to speak on just like male gays, um, who consider themselves like their pronouns are he? That meant a lot coming from black men, because growing up I seen my daddy always dating lighter women, skinnier women, or they were all skinny and light. You know what I'm saying. And I felt like him. So I'm just like, oh, I ain't gonna never get no man don't like. And it's because I my dad, growing up, never really was affectionate to the point where he was calling me you are beautiful, like pouring into me and helping me realize my beauty. And this is, and the third, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:And then it helped coming around with different women who were the total opposite of me and myself, and then also growing up with a mom who was light-skinned, with dimples and a beautiful smile and, you know, slender honey. We had both blew up throughout the years, but you know she was. I remember my mama being a little girl but, um, oh, I hope she didn't hit us. She up now who the fuck? Who the fuck? Cause they all real bad. But it gained a lot of insecurities, like insecurities for me, and so it really meant a lot for not only someone in that community telling me you are beautiful, someone in that community telling me you are beautiful, but to hear it from a black man, regardless of his sexuality, it just was like you know the fuck right, let me pop my shit. You right, you right, you right. And that's where I've always felt home at.
Speaker 1:And then, especially when I was like a little curious and when I got to like high school, I feel like everybody in high school, well, all the girls in my school was like we was all like I don't know, it could have just been like a little hormones, like, um, I don't, I don't know, I don't know what the fuck it was, but we all was like just experimenting, so low-key, and I knew about the boys that was experimenting too, but I don't know they were my being, but anyway, um. So, especially when it came to me wanting to be like I want to know what it's like, you know what I'm saying. So, shit, I tried it and it was fun. You know, I don't really consider myself as a bisexual woman, because I don't see myself marrying a woman and raising the family with another woman and that's not what I go looking for when I go out and date. Now, when it comes to, you know, being grown and I had some of that done, julio and me, and want a little bit of that, darlena, okay, if you know, if you can, yes, I'm cool with that, like I'm cool with getting out freaky with a lady and stuff. You know, if my man want to have some fun, whatever we can, you know. But as far as, like you know, getting married and all that, oh, no, thank you. No, thank you, honey. I'm going to need me some things on the regular. Oh, I got to have me some. My emotions and the mm-mm, absolutely not. But I said this to say, yes, I am.
Speaker 1:I fall in the category of the LGBTQ plus community. I might be on the plus side, I might be the Q, because one of my friends told me that, oh, girl, you're queer. She was like oh, you're not bisexual, you're queer. So I'm just like, okay, like it's so many labels to it. So I'm just like shit, I'm in there somewhere Because you, you know, I tap a little ass here and there, but it's nothing that I want to like, it's not my lifestyle. I should say it's just something I like to do for fun. Um, yes, I love, love, love, love.
Speaker 1:So every year for pride, I always do like these pride make I'll tell my every year, okay, it's only always. Do like these pride make I'll tell you my every year. Okay, it's only been two years in a row, but still, like I just I don't know I just been very loud, like I hold on tight to my gaze, like that's just what it is. I'm very sensitive when it comes to anything with them yeah, pertaining them and protecting them and supporting them. So I take it really really, really serious. But I do feel like we all need a gay in our life to give us life, and it's just good balance. Like I was sitting with the girls the other day because I was for my um, actually, it was for my birthday I went to plan a day in gayborhood and it's because it's something about going around gays that make you feel so good about being in your feminine, so good about just just being a woman, like they literally just make you feel so good about being you.
Speaker 1:Like, oh my god, if you don't have a gay friend or just have never been to a gayborhood, and what a gayborhood is, for those who don't know is basically like a little strip of bars and shops that are in big and mostly in like bigger cities that are, that are um owned or ran by or strictly for the lgbtq community plus community and um, yeah, go. It usually has the little rainbow crosswalk. If y'all have been seeing them, I know Atlanta is like one of the biggest ones. Dallas has one. I don't know if Houston has one. I'm pretty sure Austin does and that's for people in Texas. Um LA, you know for a fact they have a neighborhood. Um DC, I heard, has one and I don't think cities. New York, I'm pretty sure, has a gayborhood and um Seattle, maybe I don't know, but you'll have to look into it and see where it is that you are at.
Speaker 1:But I do encourage you to go to a gayborhood, hang out and go to the clubs and this is another thing. The best fucking djs if you are more so of a girl's girl like me, the best fucking djs I swear are in gay bars. I swear to god because, bitch, you're gonna hear beyond, you ain't gonna hit out and you're gonna hit. Some ratatatatatat gets ghetto, don't. Don't get it twisted like it can get a little hood, like we just know all of it. But you're gonna hear a little Beyonce. You're gonna most definitely hear Nicki. You're gonna hear your Rihanna. You're gonna hear you're just gonna hear your girls. You're gonna hear a little Whitney. You're gonna hear a little what's her name? Um, damn, I know that song song y'all. When it come to me I'm a yeah y'all, let me.
Speaker 1:I bust out singing, especially on this mic. I don't know who the fuck I be thinking I am, but uh, you gonna hear y'all. Oh, some shit. Your grandma was playing when you was cleaning up honey. You gonna hit somebody walking by calling you all white china. Look at you looking like a white, like just sling just there.
Speaker 1:Oh, so, like, oh, what would I do without my gays? I swear to god what I do without my gays. I don't. I don't know. Like it's to the point where. Listen y'all, if I had, if I, if I die and come back as a man, I know I'm a B-gay. I'm just throwing that out there Cause I don't know. For one, I love me, some ding-a-ling, and for two, I'm just so feminine and flamboyant, like my gays.
Speaker 1:Call me a punk. Like let's just get to it. That's what they say. They be like girl. You know you a punk like this, let's just get to it. That's what they say. They're like girl. You know you a punk girl, listen, I'm a punk, so, and okay.
Speaker 1:So if you listening and don't know that lingo a punk, a sissy, I'm not gonna say faggot. I don't like the word faggot, but used in bad terms, using bad terms in this term, I'm a faggot, like I'm a punk. But faggot sometimes associates with mess and is used to do harm or offend somebody. So we're not gonna like. That's not what I'm going for when I say that. For those who are like, oh my god, this bitch just said faggot, but, um, no, we're not talking about like that. Um, but yes, I'm a punk, I'm a sissy, especially when, oh, it's just, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I love gays, uh, girls, I love my girls. You know womanhood, all that, but sometimes I prefer to get aged up with the girls because I just need to be around some men with some feminine energy. I need the good balance. So I'm gonna go over here and I'm gonna chill with them and we gonna talk and kiki, and they're just gonna remind me to keep it up and keep fucking going and I'm gonna uplift them and support them and make sure they know they good in any hood, like you know. Just, you have to pour into your gay friends, you have to support them, you have to be there. Um, a lot of black gay men live a lonely life as they get older, if they have not found a male, that is, you know equally on their lifestyle, or if there's just not what they're into. So you have to always make sure you're checking up on these friends, you are there for them and just really supporting them in the ways that you need them. You need them Gays and I really like relate a lot to gays too because of that reason, like being that friend that was always there for a kiki and a laugh and a good time and to make you feel good about yourself.
Speaker 1:But when I'm calling, crying and shit, it's just like you can't relate. You can't relate or I don't feel comfortable. Shit. It's just like you can't relate, you can't relate or I don't feel comfortable doing it towards you because I know you, you know. So I really go in when in hard when it comes to supporting my gay friends.
Speaker 1:Um, I did want to go back and highlight too on when I was like my gay friends are good in anyhood and that's because sometimes, as women, we like to go around the boys. We like to hang around the boys. If you know, yo, you, your friend, want to hang tonight or whatever, and you trying to be funny because you around the boys, that shit ain't genuine, that shit ain't cool and I don't like people that do that. Like, if my friend can come with me and feel comfortable, then I don't need to be there. Period, it's the time and it's okay to hang out like with the guys without your gay friend.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying that, like, everybody has to accept, accept, accept. They're not even saying everybody has to accept, accept, accept. But the bitch that's hanging with me and the bitch that say she love me and the bitch that's calling my phone, eating advice, crying or need a laugh needs to learn how to accept that you can't be hanging around me alone and doing all that if I can't come around or I can't benefit off of being your friend out in the public symbol, blah, blah. We don't play stuff like that. I've um known a lot of stories and know people who do their gay friends like that and to me absolutely not. Like don't try to throw your gay friend off on.
Speaker 1:Oh, I never figured, I ain't even gonna bring it up because it's just gonna be a sensitive topic for some people and I'm, you know, above above it all. But, however, like that just put up such a bad taste in my mouth and I don't like when people do that like I don't like like I've been in a case where someone has done that and I just don't like that. You know like so gays have to watch these bitches and watch who they call friends too, because a lot of gay guys don't like okay, so, for instance, I'm gonna use a celebrity that I watch. So if you are familiar with Armand Wiggins, he's like, literally, if you know me, you know I fucks with Armand Wiggins. Um, the Armand Wiggins show or whatever. I love Mr Armand.
Speaker 1:Like I be gagging at Armand, okay, um, I be hearing him speak sometimes about certain little things. He, he was like he don't really get. Well, I ain't gonna say it's just been like certain little things. He said that was like and I was like agreeing. So that was like I and I was like agreeing. So I was like yeah, yeah, he right, bitches do be doing it. But he basically said that women get a flip on a gay in a quick second and then call them all kind of faggots and cc's and do all that dirty, grimy ass shit and um, that ain't cool either. That ain't cool either.
Speaker 1:Me and cory did not have the healthiest relationship at one point, and you never. I mean he could. Like I wish he was here to tell you, like he will let you know. Like one thing that didn't come out my mouth was anything hurtful, or I ain't throw nothing up stereotypical at him, like when it came to us arguing Even with another gay friend that I had in my adult years like never, not once, said anything that could possibly bring up insecurities.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying. And women do that. But also I will say, unfortunately everyone has, every person can be. I mean, we're human. There are bad humans out there that throw shit up in people's faces and be and be very like spiteful or scornful towards other people. And you know like just women do it, gays do it. But we can't associate that all the time with gay people. That that's how they are and it's like we can't't. We can't do that. We can't do that only because they wordplay good, and I think that's what it narrowed down. So I think the wordplay be so good, the reads we read I'm like, oh, but also women have to realize that if a gay does do that, sometimes you know when, and I'm not saying just settle for it or take it, but you know when someone gets like I can be nasty when it comes to an argument, but not but I don't go below the belt, nasty like I don't go telling your business last, like I'm not fucking with the loyalty part.
Speaker 1:I'm, you know, like I might poke the bear like, but I'm not fucking with the whole loyalty part when it comes down to being in an argument or dispute with another. Um, with someone who is like this gay, black, like nah, I ain't doing that, white people, I might take it there, I'm just playing, I'm not gonna take it there. But um, and what I mean by take it there with white people is bring us some slavery shit, like I will go there and I have the right to, honestly. But even then I don't feel like that's um, that's a reflection from trauma. I don't think that is something that's like below the belt, like I'm not talking about no kids, but some people will. I'm not talking about no, mamas, some people will. I'm not talking about like you know. I'm just not hitting below the belt with nobody, only because you might trigger something out of somebody and you don't know what reaction you're going to get from that. And that's because if you do that to me, you don't know what reaction you're gonna get up out of me, baby.
Speaker 1:So I try to you know, treat and be fair and treat people how I would want to be spoke to, even during the heat, the heat of a conversation. Now I might say something like that's why y'all did smile a little while to my man or something, but even then, like I'm not going below that like you, that's your man. Like I, might you know what I'm saying, you, my man, at something, but even then, like I'm not going below that like you, that's your man. Like I, might you know what I'm saying, you, my man, at the end of the day. So if it is small, well, I'm here for a reason, but you know, don't, don't act like it won't be spoken up in the argument, like let's be real. But um, yeah, I brought that up to say because he was saying like that's why he don't, like he don't really have too many close girlfriends because they do shit like that, and I've seen it happen so many times and so many more times than less. So that's why I'm speaking on it.
Speaker 1:So that's why a lot of women who are just like I don't do the gays. They shiesty, they blah, blah, blah. But I'm just here to let the girls know like shit I've heard the bitches talk about like gays in a way, or just be funny towards something that you know they would not like, instead of helping and it's my thing too like if you're gonna laugh, laugh with them, like let's laugh together and let's fix it, or you know, and if they're just that friend that's hard to hear it and didn't even ask for it, still be a real bitch and let them know like uh-uh girl or uh-uh boy like or uh-uh like them, they, whatever, you got to just be 100 like, just have a genuine soul. If you don't have that, you I mean, and it all results back down to that. It all results down back to being a good person. But we gotta appreciate our gays like we have to, and I have so much gratitude and love for my games. Like you need you a gay BFF, so yo, you got to get you one.
Speaker 1:If you ain't got you one, I'm out here in Dallas y'all, and I'm honestly looking for one. I think I got one that's like in a running or whatever. I do hang with a lot of T-girls. T-girls is trans girls Well, I only hang with like two-girls. T-girls is trans girls well, I only hang with like two of them, three, four, three, because one trend um, I'm not gonna say dresses in drag, because I feel like that is something different, but she is a cross dresser like she'll dress into, um, she'll dress up, I don't know what that's called. We'll have to get somebody um on the show and just speak about different lingos and you know, um kind of get their perspective on females being gay's friends and stuff like that too. We'll have to get that on there.
Speaker 1:Honestly, I'm most likely gonna do a part two to this and that's gonna be the part two of this episode. So this would be like a two-part series, but I'm just saying my experience and I did want to dedicate this to my friend and talk about like just oh god, corey, I miss you and I wish you were really here and I really wish you would have got to be casey, because I just like I have his picture beside. It's like literally he's on my altar, like he's not an ancestor, but I keep him on my little altar with my grandma and my baby, daddy, my grandpa you know all my people that is in the spiritual realm or whatever. But yeah, so we probably do like you know. Well, not probably we're going to do a part two, but I was saying, yes, I hang with a lot of trans girls and I love them too. I love them so much they are not really well, you wouldn't I wouldn't say they're gay, like you know. Give them that term, because this episode was like the title or whatever.
Speaker 1:But yeah, anybody in the community is just like cool as fucking my ass, uh trans girl me and my homegirl was talking and I was just kind of breaking down how I felt, like we were talking about the whole. Just hilarious NTS Medicine tea and if you don't know about that, go kind of look it up, because I don't want to be too long when we didn't get off track and then get emotional about it. So go look it up and then hop back in the comments and comment and I'm going to be on station here, so just tell me, we'll be able to talk about it or whatever. We'll be able to talk about it and you tell me how you feel about it or whatever. But this is for those who do know this is what me and her, when I had to talk to her about any, got uncomfortable. It did get uncomfortable and I'm gonna tell you why. So it was uncomfortable situation because I didn't know her view on it, but I just went straight in and was like, let me let you know how I feel about shit like this, because you, my girl, and we hang out and like you, really, my bitch, when it comes to stuff like the Olympics and competitive things, when it comes to trans women, I feel like they should have their own category.
Speaker 1:Like women, men, trans men, trans women, I should. I feel like it should be some equality and we all should have our own category based off of what we were born physically. So, based off what we were born physically, I feel like we all should have our own category, you know, and, um, just physically. So, of course, physically that's going to be, you know, your strength and all of that, as as like male, female, and then we should break it up and then, like you know, compete that way, like compete with what we are, what we identify ourselves as when it comes to our physical strengths. However, I know some people probably shaking their head like, well, I do identify myself as a woman and I totally get that. But like when it, when we break it all down like we're talking physics we're not talking about gender's identity, but what it is kind of, but like physics, like when it comes to that, but um, biological physics, physics, I should say, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1:But yes, so I was telling her. I was like I feel like, yeah, y'all should have a category and y'all should, and we all should compete against each other. If that's the case, you know, and not just being this category in that category, why I can't be in this category. Okay, let's break the shit up and the best motherfucker win period. You know what I'm saying. So I do feel like in those aspects, yes, I personally do not have a problem at all whatsoever to be called a cisgender or cis woman and, you know, adding these different like abbreviations to women to make other women feel better about themselves or included, I don't have a problem, it's not that deep for me. However, it is hard already being a woman and I was telling her that too.
Speaker 1:I was like that's why some people get offended, because, hell, we still fighting for our own rights as a biological woman, still being overlooked as a biological woman. So people are going to look at that and don't have a soul and just you know, and just have a mouth and a mind, a ass mind, and just gonna be like, well, you know, here comes another, here comes a quote-unquote man putting on a dress, trying to tell me how to do this and how to do that, because they're so over and hurt and damaged and traumatized by men doing these things. And when I say that I mean biological men, you know, um? So of course, people are going to be a little as smart as they are going to be a little ignorant to it and not open. Not everybody's going to be accepted of everything. You know what I'm saying. Hell, it's certain companies that don't believe, like I don't. I'm not selling plus size clothes because I just don't believe in fashion for fat women and that's okay. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:So I don't know when it got to the point where it was super, super sensitive, because I feel like the world has grew so much with accepting so many different people and just hearing everybody out and trying to make everybody feel a little included versus excluded. Think, when it comes down to stuff like that, it gets tricky. Because y'all know what. Y'all know where I'm gonna go for the gold real deep with it, honey, because you know we gotta fight about some. If there's no fighting, there's no money being, there's no money being made. Let's just be for real, like y'all know how how real, sonny, you know how it is. Like this is life. If it ain't no fight, ain't no money to be made. So we gotta find something to make them compete with each other or fall out about or just the third. So I don't have no problem with that.
Speaker 1:I'm very open with knowing that you, with you calling yourself a woman, you, you know, standing up in your power and you fighting for women like you, like I'm fighting for women like me, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Because, yeah, we're women, but then, boom, I got, I get separated, because then I'm a black woman and then, boom, I'm a black plus size woman and then, boom, I'm a black plus size woman.
Speaker 1:That's the thing it just gets. It is really, really deep, y'all. Sorry, I was having a little technical difficulties over here, but it just gets really deep. So I feel like we should kind of just sit and just at the end of the day, be considerate and think about everybody's feelings and emotions and trauma and everyday lifestyle and just be a little bit more kind to each other and know that we're all battling different mental health issues, that we are fighting day by day while on top of trying to get this money, while on top of trying to remain beautiful and confident and, you know, and still be ourselves and not feel judged. So I feel like, you know, we should all just be a little bit more kinder and not always lean to gays for hairstyles and a kiki, and just show them gratitude, embrace them as our friends celebrate them, think about them, put them first for a change and really just show up and be there and let them motherfuckers into the girl's restroom because hello.